That was the question that erupted out of my heart while in the bathroom early this morning (okay, that was some weeks ago). Then some crazy ideas, philosophies and religious jargons that we’ve been taught over the years started coming to my mind. These philosophies and doctrinal beliefs led to this write up you are about to read.

WARNING: Crosscheck some of the references I will be making mention of to avoid doubt. Remember also that you are not obligated to read this. Now to the crux of the matter.

We all love clichés right? You probably don’t know you do however, you will realize at the end of this exposé how much you love clichés and you will discover some of those clichés you love.

1.  “I AM JUST WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MAN/WOMAN”

2.  “YOU CAN’T JUST MARRY ANY MAN/WOMAN”

3.   “YOU NEED TO CONFIRM FROM A MAN IF HE/SHE IS THE RIGHT MAN/WOMAN”

4. “MARRIAGE IS A DO OR DIE AFFAIR”

5.  “THERE IS SOMETHING LIKE “ONE WOMAN OR MAN FOR YOU”

Tell me you’ve never felt in any of these ways before and I’ll apologize for calling you all cliché lovers. Well, in case you are wondering what my point is, let me go straight to the point.

“I AM JUST WAITING FOR THE PERFECT MAN/WOMAN”

Today’s Christianity is full of dogmas and philosophies that men have cooked up in the name of making name for themselves. In effect, people would rather buy into what their G.Os or fathers say or have said in the past than consulting God and His word to find out if what was preached or being preached by the “men of God” has any premises in the Bible. Sure, it is not enough for a word to have foundation in the bible we must go beyond that and see for ourselves through the help of the Holy-Spirit if the interpretations we gave or we are giving are actually what God is saying. Now let me be straight with you. There is nothing like Perfect Woman for Marriage

There are various things the bible talked about but merely talking about them doesn't mean that the bible supports them, and sometimes we read those to our detriment because we've failed to consult the author Himself. Take this passage for example:

“I gave you your master's house, and your master's wives into your bosom, and gave you the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that would have been too little, I would have added to you many more such things”

Pause and ask yourself a question here: Apart from his master’s WIVES, the LORD said he would have added to him many more such things and that includes many more wives...Right? Someone can use that to preach Polygamy. Yeah! It’s there in your bible.

The book of Proverbs 31:10-28 talk about the Virtuous women… NOT A PERFECT WOMAN! And this ideology that every woman should be like the woman that was talked about in that chapter is nothing but a myth. I challenge you to do exactly or find someone that is doing exactly what was said about that woman.

If you are a man looking for an already caked up lady, perfectly crafted for your taste, which will come down from a castle you’ve built for yourself in the air. Look no further because such lady DOES not exist!! So, I advise you to give up.

The same goes to the ladies who daydream about superman, ironman or a hero that will come and rescue you from the claws of those you call ‘vultures’. Heroes aren't born, they are made. Your man or woman isn't a hero but he or she can become one in the process of time. It all depend on you!

Scripturally, there is nothing like a perfect woman/man… all that we are on this planet earth is nothing but imperfect (Note: Those who believe in Christ are referred to as Perfect. It is of identity not of behavior). But we must also ask ourselves the question of what we mean by “Perfect”. If it has to do with material things or the figure-eight (8) that the lady possesses or the innocent look of the guy then, let us agree to the fact that we've been fooling ourselves. We need to wake up to the reality or else, marriage will open the can for us and it would have been too late.

The time bomb in this is: Every woman or man you meet are already perfectly created in God’s image. The material things (Including their behavior) are just add on and that doesn't make them more perfect or imperfect. Hence, that doesn't mean a sister or a brother should be as loose as a dog! What about my taste? So you’ll say. That now bring us to point number two (2).

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